Why Do People Think It's Their Business...

... and their "right" to comment on YOUR goals?
Setting a personal goal and reaching it is something that you already know will be hard work. But, that it will pay off once you've accomplished it. It's something that you do for yourself. So why do other people feel the need to dictate what, and how you should go about doing it?
For example:
According to WW.com, my ideal weight is between 113 and 130 pounds.
I have made the choice that my goal weight is 130 pounds. I know what I look like that that weight, I know my pant size will be around an 8 in womens, that my arms will lose that flab, my ever persistent double chin will go away, my thighs won't rub together anymore, and if I continue with my elliptical routine I will have an ass that you could bounce a quarter off of. 130 pounds is a comfortable, attainable, familiar number to me.
113 is another story, I don't know what I would look like at 113 pounds. So, I figure I'm going to get down to 130 and go from there. If I can look at my body when I'm 130lbs, and see how losing 17 more pounds would benefit me, then I'm gonna go for it. If I think I look great and am feeling comfortable at 130 - then I'll stay put.
A lot of that has to do with the fact that I'm not changing to be "skinny", I'm changing to be healthy. At the same time, with how busty I am, I don't want to look like I'm about to fall over due to being "top heavy" LOL.
I've chosen to not mention what I'm doing to too many people in my life, because I hate being pestered about it. "So, how's that diet going?"... "Seeing any results yet?"... and yadda yadda. It makes me feel like they are just waiting for me to fail. Like they might as well just ask "So, have you totally bombed out yet?"
But, with the few that I have shared it with - they are feeling the need to tell me what they think is an appropriate amount of weight for me to lose. It's frustrating because I don't think that their input is necessary . This is MY personal goal. I didn't ask for advice on it, and I'm not asking for their thoughts either. It's a goal I've set that I feel is a great one for me.
Maybe they don't see how their comments and opinions come off so negatively?

:)

Amber is doing SO well, she is putting me to SHAME! Lol - congratulations Amber, you are doing so awesome!!

I'm back on the wagon after a brief few days of slipping.

Which got me to thinking...

I really hate that I'm one of those people that make things "all better" by eating food.
The first thing I did after my ER visit because of my m/c was say "F___ it" and I had DH go to Taco Bell for me. WHY do I do that? What is it about food that makes things "all better"?
In the long run, it doesn't. And you KNOW it doesn't. It just continues that damn circle of being unhappy.
And after spending all night in the ER with DD? Came home, cried, and ate two frozen pretzels.
Those silly little things are something that I love, and I had bought them as little treats for myself. Yet, they were the first thing I reached for when I was upset.
I really want to be/wish I was one of those people that threw on their tennis and went for a run to solve anger, frustration, sadness issues. Can you retrain your brain to do that? Or am I fighting a never ending battle here?
I guess I'll be experimenting on myself, because I'm going to try as hard as I can to remember that my tennis are sitting right by the front door - and when I'm upset, I'm going to go for a walk. I'm gonna do my own little test to see if I do it enough, if I can get it to be an automatic "need" when things get rough. Instead of reaching for the food.
The walk would have done me so much better than the Taco Bell.

So anyways - starting over here! Scale said 187, so, I've got some catching up to do if I wanna keep up with Amb - that girl is on a roll baby!

Weigh in day!

This morning was weigh-in time.  I am happy to report that I now weigh

200.5 lbs

I honestly cannot believe the progress I'm making on WW.  I've tried unsuccessfully for such a long time to lose weight.

Oh, and I now have one less point per day.  My new points target is 26.  :)

A little update...

Well, the "goal dress" that I got for my trip to New Orleans came today.  I'm glad I listened and ordered a large instead of an XL.  I tried it on, and it doesn't look half bad.  It's awfully short, though.  I haven't worn a short dress in a long time.  It's an adorable dress.  Aw, heck, I guess I'll post the picture.

It happens that my trip will be happening almost a month earlier than I'd planned.  I think there's still a chance that I could meet my goal of being down 15 lbs before we go.  If not, I'm confident that I will have lost 10.  Just being under the 200 lb mark will be reason enough to go celebrate.  It's been almost 2 years since I've seen that.

I really am amazed at my progress.  I'm really sticking with this and documenting everything I eat.  I'm exercising, and enjoying it.  I'm feeling better about myself little by little.  I know I've started taking better care of myself, and that's something to be proud of.  

Thank you for continuing to keep up with us.

**on a personal note, I just want my friend, Roni, to know that she and her family are in my prayers.  I'm not going to pretend to understand how you must feel, but I do know that you are a strong, resilient woman, and I love you.**

Weigh in Week 2!

Well, today marks the beginning of week 3 for me.  I had my weigh in this morning and, drumroll, please...

I'm down 2 lbs!  My weight today is 203.5!

Kinda Sad!

So, I went to the clinic today (will write about that in my other blog..) and I was, of course, weighed. I was a little excited because I haven't gotten a recent weight. At first I kept putting off getting a scale, and THEN I lost my debit card. THEN I lost my husbands and his was taken and used fraudulently.
Needless to say, both cards were canceled and new ones are on the way. They just haven't gotten here yet.
Anyways.
My weight is 189.2. I was kind of disappointed that it wasn't less, I thought it would be as my pants are fitting noticeably comfier. Maybe it was all in my head.
BUT, some weight loss is better than no weight loss and a LOT better than weight gain.

I'm in the same boat as Amber, with being hesitant to use up Flex Points. Although, I keep reminding myself that I do need a little reward now and then, so I don't burn myself out.
I want my new card so I can order my WW calculator too darn it!

A struggle

After Logan was born, I lost my baby weight and then some pretty quickly.  I felt WONDERFUL, and I looked all right, I think.  When I had my hysterectomy, I gained 20 lbs that wouldn't go away.  No matter what.

I tried SO many times, so many ways to lose it.  My weight would fluctuate.  I'd lose 2 lbs here, then gain 4 lbs there.  Nothing would be different about my routine.  I guess my metabolism was just shot.  I was running 3+ days a week, going to the gym 3+ days a week, and wasn't seeing any results.

Now, I'm finishing up my second week of WW, and I'm noticing that I'm having a hard time some days making myself finish all of my points.  My week ends tomorrow night and I still have all 35 flex points.  

In the back of my mind, I'm scared.  I've lost 4 lbs, and want to keep losing.  I want to be healthy, too.  I just don't want to screw it all up sneaking an extra 5 pts here and there.  Even though I KNOW they're there for me to use, it's hard to allow myself permission to use them.

Is this something that gets easier?  Do you always use all of your flex points?  How do I teach my brain that it's okay?